Monday, September 10, 2012

Wherever you go... go with all your heart.

Salaam and bonjour and goodmorning, I have to apologize for not uploading any of the OPNO girl's posts sent to my inbox. Lately other projects have been on my plate, and I'd like to have a chance to do everything but time has afforded its constraints.

I just want to share one thought before I have time to resume posting, and this is for expats and natives alike, it is the statement of Confusious who said, "wherever you go, go with all your heart."

I don't think there is any point to life if one does not take the good and the bad and make the most of whatever oppurtunities or even limits are set on one's doorstep.

It is a bitter waste to be an expat in Oman and not see the nature, the culture of the people (both good and bad) and enjoy the freedom inherent of being an expat to take and leave whatever of it one would will. And if one is a native in a country or land, what waste is it, not to experience all that is there where you are.

Whereever you are, whoever you are, go with all your heart, eyes and mind and wide open.

This is written, to commemorate the anniversary of when I boarded a plane with all I could fit of my life far-and-away in one suitcase. I am content, because I went with all of my heart, and the reward of that has been, the earth is not a cage.


Anonymous said...

Just curious. Why do you want to be Omani? Whats the benifet? Will ur kids (future kids) be Canadian or Omani? Omani schools? Omani divorce laws? etc. Its a great place but. .......

Omani Princess (not Omani...yet) said...

They'll be Omani but as children of a Canadian mother they always have the choice to imiigrate to Canada if they wish under Canadian law.

I am fine with Omani schools. School is not equivelent with parenting, ect... And Omani divorce laws are fine if you understand Shariah law and put into law what will happen when and if divorce becomes an issue IN YOUR MARRIAGE CONTRACT. (Don't let them make an Arabic one you can't read ect... with minumum everything.

I love Oman. I agree, there's things here in the culture that suck, and laws that need amendments, and systems for getting things done that need overhaul. But Canada is worse in many ways and betetr in others.

Anonymous said...

girls...where missing your posts..inshallah all is well and you guys get back to posting soon..seems like everyones blogs are running flat.

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It is a bitter waste to be an expat in Oman and not see the nature, the culture of the people (both good and bad) and enjoy the freedom inherent of being an expat to take and leave whatever of it one would will. And if one is a native in a country or land, what waste is it, not to experience all that is there where you are.

Andrew Brown said...

Nice to know another Canadian that's mostly happy in Oman. Canada is so much worse in more ways than it is "better"...just sayin'
Hope all is well with you ladies. You haven't blogged in a while and I miss your blog updates that used to appear so regularly in my inbox! :-)

Anonymous said...

Hello, I am a foreigner and met an Omani online. He told me that he'll visit me in my country a few months back, and true to his words, he is coming next week. I am just a litle bit apprehensive and scared because I grew up in an environment where arab/muslim men are deemed violent and treats women as a slave (not really sure) but what are your thoughts on this? are arab/omani guys stiff, strict or violent at times?

Omani Princess (not Omani...yet) said...

Anon 08/25/2012 11:55 : Omanis in general are some of the sweetest and least abusive ppl on Earth (for sure when you are not in an initimate relationship as relationships are complicated especially cross-cultural and cross religious----and even therein I don't consider the culture or religion to be abusive towards women).

Arab/Muslim men being deemed violent and treating women like crap is utterly unfair and untrue and is a stereotype that came from ignorance of a culture, and this is from someone whose known Arab men from all over the globe: Saudi Arabia, Oman, Qatar, Syria, Egypt, Jordan, ect.... My husband is Omani and he treats me better than any Western guy ever would have because of his religion ect....

But I do want to stress, Arab culture, and Omani culture is different for women to live in than Western culture unless the Omani man you are going to meet has a very open and Westernized family. Religion is generally important to families. Some ppl don't even want non-Muslims working in their houses so relationship wise they don't want their sons to marry non-Muslims ect, and our religion actually forbids having intimate relations with women before the man marries her. This is to show respect to women, that they deserve to have a man promise to take care of her before he evee deems to hold her hand ect.... So it is completely different.

Oman men are not all religious. And some of course, choose some things of their culture and belief to follow, and others not.

For instance, in Oman my husband's culture has certain clothes for a woman to wear that is beyond the religion, and certain ways for a woman to act in public different than the religion ect.... This is usally just stressed upon a wife not a girlfriend or female friend. For a man to try to regulate anyone not from his family is considered hypocritical here. And once in a relationship of wife and husband, women get to regulate things for her husband as well, so I think it is pretty fair.

But hitting women, calling them down, threatening them, getting mad at them for things other men do but not the women themselves, these are not things (which I consider abusive) I ever seen from the Omani men of my aquaintance.

Anyways, I have written an awful lot, but I do recommend just enjoying a friendship with an Omani guy unless you are a Muslim or he AND HIS FAMILY are super open (like his Mom wants to meet you ect and knows about you from the START) because then you won't have to deal with the culture and religious info tied to intimate relationships for Omanis:).

But if he wants to you to be his girlfriend ect... I recommend you read the following article first. It is written about Saudis but it true of many Omanis as well (obviously not all, as my husband married me but he was religious and we didn't date before we got married AND I was already Muslim for 7 yrs).

Omani Princess (not Omani...yet) said...

Oops that's not the right article. It is similar but not the one I wnated.... Sorry! I will keep looking for it.

Omani Princess (not Omani...yet) said...

Here is the article I meant to link to: