Thursday, June 21, 2012

I GENERALLY love the type of Western Expats Oman attracts

Honestly, I love in general, the type of breed of Western expat Oman attracts.

Adventurous people. People who want a little culture, people who want to connect to the landscape. People that like to be part of aiding development in a way that preserves culture ect... People that respect Omanis until they themselves are disrespected.

But occasionally, there's the kind of "colonial" mindset expat I abhor.

The ones that complains about how Indians and Pakistanis are treated in Oman but makes their maid cry because she didn't iron the pillowcase just right, and they brag about the maid and how many bathrooms their house has (when it is paid for by their housing allowance from such and such company) and they pay her the same crap wage as everybody else.

The ones that moan about the lack of things to do in this country and how hot it is and they've never been outside of Muscat.

The ones who complain that all Omanis take advantage of people, are racist [see the irony here], lazy ect... when they've never made friends with Omanis from outside of Muscat---or even really gotten to know different Omanis IN MUSCAT. The creepy dude who hit on you in the coffee shop is going to turn out to be a douchebag no matter how friendly he seems. The Omani guy you met in a bar isn't going to represent the culture. If you only know wasta-employed dudes at your work, then you are gonna get lazy and never know about, say the lifestyle of the guard of the gate and how friendly and kind and generous his family is, ect, and how hard they are capable of working.

The ones who complain about not being able to fire those wasta-hires when they themselves got the job through a friend not because of their actual skills. Who take whatever handouts and job perks they can get, whether warranted or unwarranted.

The women who get mad when some business men in Arab dress stare at them wide-eyed when they wear bikinis to the pool. I mean, come on. On some parts of Oman, in shared family houses, it is rare to even to see your own mother's hair, let alone someone's arms and legs... and boobs. Its weird to them. Have some concept of cultural norms before you label everyone a pervert.

But do, by all means, go ahead and be mad at the dude that try to take picture in such a state----that IS against the law here so you CAN get mad at him.

The ones who sit around and comment about the women "forced" to wear hijab because one Omani woman told them she doesn't like to to wear it. Who reapeat anything they wish were true.

Who complain about the roads and the drivers when they themselves speed like idiots and are no better.

Who ignore the heritage signs in villages that request modest dress and no drinking or showy displays of public affection and complain later that they never experienced Omani hospitality as advertised by tourism Oman.

Dude, if you're drunk, or chica, you're wearing a tanktop and shorts to a traditional home, no [there are still some kinds ones despite this] Omani family is going to be like, c'mon, please share a meal with us, and oh, you like that old door in the ruins of our home, why don't you take it as a gift to remember your time with us. SERRIOUSLY!!!!!

Really? What a WASTE of time in this country.


Anonymous said...

Reminds me of this:

Rana Raza said...

LOL love the way you word things sis

x Rana x

Blewyn said...

Wow these expats sound like real trash. Good job I never met - in my 6 years to date of living in Muscat - anyone remotely similar to this.

Re the staring thing, in the west it is considered rude and aggressive to stare, no matter what anyone might be wearing or not wearing.

Omani Princess (not Omani...yet) said...

Anon: LOL, yeah, I've met a Stella or two, love JD. He will be missed. Suburban from OTHER OMAN also did a great post titled "Dear White People". I am happy I've never met JD's Indian dude though. Probably cuz I am not a guy.

Rana Raza: Typos and all;P thanks a lot:)

Blewyn: Alhamdulilah for that! They are the minority, and mainly hang out together. You are one of those who get out of Muscat so I'm sure you arne't in that set.

It is mainly expat women I am talking about. I don't know alot of expat "white peeps" except through work and they were all workaholics soooooo....

LOL, yeah, you'd totally think. But I am Western, and know that back home, girls in bikinis only got upset if it was some ugly guy checking them out and were flattered. Here in Oman, they take it as instant offense.

And we Westerners STARE a tonne! If you ever become a woman a don a headscarf you'd probablt notice.

And what about just people watching along at a cafe while having a coffe? It's a pasttime for us;)

For Omanis it is totally rude but I mean, it is human nature to gawk at things that are strange or new to you.

I remember the first time I saw a woman in an abaya in the grocery store as a ten year old. I gawked at her flowing cape majorly:) thankfully she wasn't offended.

Omani Princess (not Omani...yet) said...

***now stopping to photograph someone strange to you without their permission, or say something rude about them, or gesture rudely, that's something else entirely, and people SHOULD get offended over THAT****

And I guarantee you, in the West, even though it is totally rude in our shared culture, people do all of those... sadly, ALOT.

ZK said...

Total thruth! There is some appeal in the ex-pat living that encourages the I-don't-care-what-they-say-about-me tourist like behavior. On the same token, to rage against these culturally deprived people is perhaps not the wisest choice as all it does it alienates them even more for everything you expect them to appreciate. So better take a walk with them and show where are they wrong and how they can fix it...for the better of all. I am not saying they will become cultural ambassadors of the country, but perhaps they will observe wha tthey where just looking down on before.

Blewyn said...

ZK ... I don't think that accosting tourists and presuming to tell them what they should wear is a good idea. If you think that tourists in Oman are showing too much skin, perhaps the MOT should issue a clear dress code, and include it in the tourism literature.

Be warned though - the average European who has been working through the cold winter under the grey skies in their office or workshop will automatically cross Oman off their list if they find they can't wear shorts, or a bikini at the beach. The major draw for us on vacation is the blue sky, blue sea and the heat, and to feel the warm air on our skin.

Omani Princess (not Omani...yet) said...

Blewyn: I don't think a dress code will help anything honestly. I find that goes against Omani culture also. There are places in Oman where a bathing suit it fine, but still, I mean, people shouldn't get upset if an Omani stares if it isn't creepily just because their clothing is strange ect.

But, wearing a Bikini to the Rustaq hotspring or something? It's right in front of a Mosque so obviously, it is GOING to be considered disrespectful by the more conservative INTERIOR Omanis. I don't thinkg people should have to explain this. Rational people could see that. Like me going with a face veil into a Jewish Synagogue in Israel without asking permission to do so first and being invited to dress in that manner... It is... common sense.

ZK I don't think means going all muttawa on anyone;) just explaining like ppl gently do when they know someone (not going up to strangers ect). In my post I am not discussing tourists. Their cultural naivety is totally understandable. Expats on the otherhand, really don't have the excuse to remain ignorant. They should be reasonable. So Omanis don't start to wish they had a system like KSA (which sends shivers down my spine).

ZK said...

Btw...I read the other day that UAE has picked up the dress-code issue. Cultural melting pot is more the state of play there then here.

Obviously there will always be people who were obviously too busy negotiating their contracts or packing their 40 ft containers and did not have time to pick up a travel book and read 5 pages on the culture of the region they are just going to move their lives and family to. For these beloved professionals perhaps their employers can put together a useful info pack on living in Oman. The rest will come down to those first 7 years spent in the parental house anyways so not much more you can do there, other then writing such cool posts. love it...:)

Anonymous said...

Well if people treat Indians/Pakistanis/Bengalis/Indonesian/Malaysian & Phillipino's bad why not call them out on it.. My #1 complaint in the Gulf is this.. (No I do not hv servants) oh & nationalism, which has no place in Islam.. & the western spouses who all of a sudden take on the entire culture & are very proud, which they know far too little about (again not from Islam)